When you argue, do you often change minds? It seems all we can do is explain our own thoughts and feelings, and not try to change anyone as most people are set on their ways.
Successful communication can sometimes be very affective.
Although, when you are dealing with a fixed mind however, someone who will not budge, will not see your side, or doesn't agree to disagree, this can be difficult.
I have Bipolar 1, and this reminds me when I go through mania.
'When you come down and are often at the bottom of the pit of depression, there are all the broken relationships you have to try and mend, and nobody cares about you or why you said what you did or did what you did. I have found in my case, and that of so many, people are not willing to forgive and forget and many relationships are just plain lost. No number of apologies will help. No amount of letter writing, or phone calls will make the slightest difference.
When people are offended by what you have said or done, they will not bend.
I am very fortunate because my mania has not troubled me for many years now, but I can remember only too well the dreadful situations I got myself into in the past. I have never been forgiven and have had to count those people out of my life.'
Now, I choose to walk away or stay silent when someone is challenging me, bullying me, or is trying to provoke me or my anger.
It is better to not engage, so you don't potentially say something you do not mean and could possibly ruin your entire relationship with someone.
Arguments sometimes are necessary, in romantic relationships, because that shows there is enough passion there to disagree, and with affective and healthy communication, things may be able to be fixed.
Successful communication can sometimes be very affective.
Although, when you are dealing with a fixed mind however, someone who will not budge, will not see your side, or doesn't agree to disagree, this can be difficult.
I have Bipolar 1, and this reminds me when I go through mania.
'When you come down and are often at the bottom of the pit of depression, there are all the broken relationships you have to try and mend, and nobody cares about you or why you said what you did or did what you did. I have found in my case, and that of so many, people are not willing to forgive and forget and many relationships are just plain lost. No number of apologies will help. No amount of letter writing, or phone calls will make the slightest difference.
When people are offended by what you have said or done, they will not bend.
I am very fortunate because my mania has not troubled me for many years now, but I can remember only too well the dreadful situations I got myself into in the past. I have never been forgiven and have had to count those people out of my life.'
Now, I choose to walk away or stay silent when someone is challenging me, bullying me, or is trying to provoke me or my anger.
It is better to not engage, so you don't potentially say something you do not mean and could possibly ruin your entire relationship with someone.
Arguments sometimes are necessary, in romantic relationships, because that shows there is enough passion there to disagree, and with affective and healthy communication, things may be able to be fixed.